Category Archives: Writing

Back In The Saddle Again


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Hello! I’m finally back after a very long break. Was off taking care of life business. I normally try to keep this blog for personal stuff but in this case, business and personal are hand in hand. Here’s what I blogged about over on my business blog:

After my second release, Kindred Spirits, I set out to become a homeowner. That was a little over 2 years ago. I took a break from writing to concentrate on my new goal. By January 2015 I had accomplished my goal. I’m proud to say that I am a first-time homeowner.  That should have been cause for great celebration. My life went downhill from there.Long story short, it took a year to move  my daycare business from my old residence to the new one.

Running a daycare is what I do for my “day job.” Getting registered in my new home took so much longer than I thought it would.  I basically suffered financially the entire year of 2015. I had to take on an extra job so there was absolutely no writing getting done.  In the middle of December 2015 I finally became  registered to run a daycare again. Now to build up my clientele in my new home. Another challenge but I know it will work itself out in no time.

All this to say that things are starting to calm down in my life. I started the new year dusting off my blogs and breathing life back into my Facebook page. I want to get back to social networking again. I miss tweeting, pinning and Instagraming I’ve been jotting down story ideas and trying my hand at poetry. I figured that would be a good outlet for the many emotions I’ve experienced the past few years. I hope you’ll rejoin the journey with me.  I’m slowly getting back in the saddle again 🙂


Lesson Learned


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I’m finally able to come here and express myself without tears blurring my vision.  Right before Christmas I lost my big sister. It was sudden. It was quick. We didn’t know she was so ill until she went into the hospital and passed away three days later. When she first went into the hospital, I had hope. I told myself that everything would be fine.  The day after she was admitted, it was critical but in my head this was a speed bump that she would recover from. On the third day, I received a call from my mother urging me to get down to the hospital because my sister didn’t have much time. She wasn’t expected to make it through the night.

I don’t like seeing people on the brink of death. I rather remember them in happier times and full of life. But sometimes we have to put our own shit aside. I’m so glad I did. I think, no, I’m certain I would have regretted not going to see my sister. I arrived at the hospital to see my zany and vibrant sister hooked up to machines that kept her alive–if you can call it that. My heart broke. I wept at her bedside for so many reasons.

I wept because she had such a rough life and was finally finding peace and happiness. I wept because we had lost contact for a period of time and I had just gotten her back. I wept because she was such a lively person with a zest for life even when it had been cruel to her, and now she was slipping away. Machines were keeping her alive and I thought, “this is so cruel.” I took her hand. I know she felt us all surrounding her. I wanted her to know that it was okay to let go.

She didn’t deserve to remain in the state she was in. Her heart was weakening. She was removed from the machines the next day. I opted not to be present for that moment. I had already said my goodbyes and would not have been okay with witnessing her last breath.

It’s only been a few weeks. My heart aches everyday. I go through moments of normalcy with her passing always looming in the background. I go on with everyday chores with that black cloud in the distance. My sister lived about two hours away from me so we didn’t get together very often. But I took comfort in just knowing that she was there. Even when we lost contact, just knowing that she was out there made me feel less lonely. Now I feel so alone. It’s weird because our papa is a rolling stone.  I have at least 8 more siblings out there. (A post for another day)

I don’t know my other siblings, I only know of them. I was raised with my sister for the first few years of my life. We share the same father but have different mothers. My mother cared for her since she was very young. My mother was the only mother my sister ever knew. Our parents divorced and my father split us up. I stayed with my mother and was raised as an only child. But I always knew that wasn’t the case. I had a painfully lonely childhood but the fact that my sister existed always made me feel better. And now she’s gone.

I’ve gone through periods of time when I lost my sister, but we always found our way back to each other. The fact that I’ve lost her for good has left such a void in my life. I’m back to that painfully lonely place. I know there are pieces of me, in the form of other siblings, floating around out there, but none of them share the bond I had with my sister.

These past few weeks have been eye-opening and chock-full of life lessons that I’m not sure I was ready to learn. (Again, a post for another day) I grieve for all the future moments that were taken away from us. I regret letting petty things get in the way of spending what time I had left with my sister. Because of my deep dislike for another family member I was cheated out of the last moments of quality time with my sister. I can never get those moments back because I chose to distance myself from the group the last few times she visited. All because I was avoiding that one other person. Lesson learned.

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Front cover of the card my sister gave me on my last birthday.

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Interior of birthday card. This says it all.


Inquiring Minds Want to Know


Kindred Spirits--release date 10/31/13

Kindred Spirits–release date 10/31/13

So I’ve published my second book and of course I’m little nervous about how it will be received.  I joke about how people will think I’m utterly mad after having read the book. I’m not too concerned with that because I think we’re all a little crazy :)! I do, however, worry about people being cross with me for what I’ve done to a sacred topic.  I believe people refer to this as, blasphemy.  *Dun dun dunnn… Thunder clap*

I’m not heavily into religion but I do respect everyone’s beliefs and have always had the opinion that no one is right and no one is wrong. Is blasphemy still a big deal? I’m not being sarcastic or careless when I ask. I’m genuinely curious. As I’ve stated, I’m not a very religious person so I don’t know.  So, tell me, does it turn you off from an author’s future work if they’ve blasphemed? Inquiring minds want to know.


Upcoming Release–Halloween 2013


Yesterday I revealed the cover to my upcoming release titled, Kindred Spirits. It’s a  short story collection. There’s bloody murder, family secrets, hauntings, insanity and more. I got so excited about the cover so I wanted to share it. Here it is designed by Hi-Rise Visions who did a fantastic job!

Kindred Spirits--release date 10/31/13

Kindred Spirits–release date 10/31/13

 


When Did Support Die?– Guest Post by Christine


As part of my Enchanted Summer Games, I gave the participants a chance to do a guest post on either one of my blogs. I’m happy to post the first entry now. It comes from a woman who I interact with on Twitter. We connected because of a mutual admiration of, The Great One, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. She and her young daughter have been participating in my games daily. We’ve come to find out we have a hell of a lot of things in common. I’m enjoying getting to know her and her beautiful family. This is the reason I cooked up these games. It warms my heart when she tells me that competing in the games has brought her closer to her daughter through the friendly rivalry going on and time spent playing the games.  The participants were told that they could write about any topic they wanted. Yet this woman chose to make her blog post about me! She suffers with a medical condition and is a mother of two! And she finds time to show support for little old me. That’s something I take note of and will never forget. Now on to her post. 

When Did Support Die? by Christine

I joined Twitter ~3yrs. ago, all be it to follow Dwayne “Rock” Johnson, an to my surprise met quite a lot of people who took the same interest as me, not just “Rock” related ,but wrestling and reading. Through the years I have gained n lost a few followers, but “the best ones” Thank God have stayed around. I am ,with my daughter Bethany, playing a game hosted by a GR8 Follower..now better known Friend May Torres. She has written a book called Enchanted Island (which I am enjoying reading) an has come up with #EnchantedGames to allow her followers an friends to get to know her n each other better. It pisses me off with all the people on her list and mine that a handful play along. I ask WHY? ..The events are fun an the questions an tasks allow her to know you better and vice versa. It doesn’t take up all your time(as I am a Mom of 2 n go to rehab for my bone disease everyday).I am having a great time playing game n meeting new people but most of all learning MORE about May who I have been following for so long. I do understand that everyone’s life is busy, but 10 minutes of your day isn’t a lot to get to know more about your “friend” an give her support. Who knows one day you may need support an “word of mouth” to get your projects n dreams off the ground, yet your past actions might make it that much more TOUGHER. So I say Where is the support an not just pertaining to this but in life in general ?

**This is the daily post I mentioned above regarding the task of guest blogging today**


An Invitation To Fellow Writers


For the past four weeks I’ve been running my Enchanted Summer Games. There’s a little over half a dozen players. Not quite as many as I would have liked but these players have come back every week to participate. I designed these games as a way for me too meet new people and for people to get to know me. It has been a great experience so far. I post daily activities which help you advance on your opponents in decathlon-style events. It’s so much fun playing the actual online track and field games themselves. (Here’s the current event, the High Jump) Then there’s the daily activities you must complete to advance on fellow players.

For example, in yesterday’s daily task list there was a Fact or Fiction exercise. What each player had to do was list three facts about them. One was to be false. Fellow players had to guess which one was false. I learned new things about people I’m actually quite familiar with already. And in turn they learned something new about me. These are how I set up the games. It’s all about breaking the ice.

I encourage fellow writers to come and join in. As you compete for prizes, readers will get to know you and vice versa. When people get to know what you’re about they’re more inclined to invest in your dreams. And writers dream about getting read, no? At the least, you will have so much fun laughing at the friendly competition. You’ll win fun prizes, not a million dollars, but still fun :).

You have nothing to lose and a few things to gain. What you gain may be worth more than you think. Take a chance.

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Hooray! For Second Chances


So, here’s what’s happening. A few years ago I published my first novel, Enchanted Island. Fast forward a few years and I’m re-releasing the book. I made a few mistakes the first time around which I’m correcting now. You see, I passively marketed while secretly hoping my family and friends would lend a helping hand. I must say a handful, and I mean one hand, did actually purchase and read the book. Those people will always be remembered and appreciated. My only problem is I have close to 300 friends on my personal Facebook page and just under 10 of them jumped on board to support me. It’s true they don’t really owe me anything. But still, isn’t it nice to have the support of your peers? I think so.

Time went on and I saw that they weren’t particularly interested in anything I had to say regarding my book. I was so proud of myself for stepping up and seeing this thing through. Most people don’t. I know whenever I see a friend or even a distant acquaintance involved in something cool, that I’m so thrilled for them. I jump right in and support however I can. My mistake was wishing that people would do the same for me. I was wrong. When the book was just coasting along with trickling sales here and there every month, I resigned myself to the fact that, I’m not going to make it. I became resentful and even stopped writing for a while.

Every now and then I’d get a burst of inspiration and resume my feeble effort to market my work. There came a point in time nearly two months ago where I got this fire in my belly once again. I finally came to terms with the fact that I couldn’t really count on my inner circle to help me get to the next level. When I saw everyone around me taking care of themselves, even the ones I helped at some point in time, I just had had enough.

It came time for me to get out there and mingle. I needed to connect with people so they could get to know what I’m all about. It’s important for me that people see who I am and what I’m about. I came up with a fun way to help make this happen. To celebrate the new look for my book I have a summer-long contest going. If you follow my blog you know about the Enchanted Summer Games. The games are a way for the readers to get to know me and a little about my book. I received the proof yesterday and gave it a once over. I’m happy to say, Enchanted Island is now available in paperback with the new cover and also for Kindle devices. Hooray! For second chances.

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Enchanted Island with new cover and new attitude.

Paperback copies of  Enchanted Island are available here